What is the best part of your day?
And, who are the poor souls who have the endure the moments during your...not best...part of the day?
What is the time of day you drag and struggle through?
These are all things that are good to know about ourselves. You can maintain your schedule so that you love the best during your most "loving" times and work the hardest during your most "focused" times.
I know that I am chipper and in the mood to discuss life early in the morning. My husband...is not. He would prefer to go about his morning in a fog--until he wakes up on the drive into work. Now, I could get my feelings hurt and resent him for not connecting with me...or, I could find someone else to give my love to in those moments.
Luckily, Cooper, that sweet and smushy boy above, is the most snuggly and sweet boy in the mornings. I have found that it is the perfect time to give him some attention and love, because he is open and at his most loving time in the morning. If I spend 10 or 15 minutes just focused on him, snuggling him, talking about what he wants to talk about, whatever...10 minutes and he is so nourished and ready to go for the day.
His attitude is so much better, because he feels like he has gotten my sweetness. The best of me for the best of him. I find with my children that I need to match up our best times.
Asher and I connect during his last feeding of the day, all hushed and quiet. I admire his fuzzy hair, brushing my cheek against his tiny head. He nuzzles into me and looks deeply into my eyes. The best of him and the best of me...our sweetness.
Noah needs some intensive talk time, and he prefers to get some physical touch in there, too. He likes to lay in bed right before bedtime and talk about his thoughts and have his back scratched. I think this is the one I struggle with the most, because the kids' bedtime and the end of the day is NOT my best time of the day. I am tired and ready to transition into "adult" time.
Can you match those people or tasks up with the times of day you feel at your best for that particular need? I wonder if I could take some time with Noah to rest and talk during another time rather than bedtime. He would get more of the best of me, and I would not struggle through it so much.
Take some time to figure out the people you need to love well...or the things you need to do well. I know if I am intentional with my time, recognizing when I am at my best, I am more effective and life feels like less of a struggle. I am not trying to shove a square peg in a round hole.